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Judy and Guy approx 1961

Guy and I about 1961

Today is August 17, it is the day I should be calling my nephew Guy and wishing him a happy birthday and then making some goofy wisecracks about our ages – we were only about 4 years apart. But Guy is gone, he died in 2010. We were always close as kids, I think it was because he was so wimpy and sweet and easy to get along with, where I was demanding, domineering and oh so hard to like. He would do my bidding and I would cut him some slack when it came time for my temper – we always did get along like that.

As we grew older and I had my oldest son, Guy was my go-to babysitter. While I was out partying the 1970’s away, Guy was taking care of my son and forming a very close bond with him that was more like a brother relationship than a cousin one. When Guy died of a stroke at age 52 my poor son was more devastated than I could imagine.

Guy’s last years were not easy for him….he had divorced, lived with his mom (my sister) and had been forcefully retired by the telephone company – financially it was very hard on him. He had gained alot of weight and wasn’t making wise choices with his health – he seemed to be terrified of doctors – he was in Las Vegas with his girlfriend when he had a massive stroke – he never regained consciousness and within a month he was gone. I think of him so often, and especially today – I want to call him and sing to him in my horrible voice and crack some jokes!

Don Guy and David Christmas 2000

3 brothers – Guy is in the middle

           Happy birthday Guyo, I love you.

Guy the cowboy

Guy the cowboy

Finding Family

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Elma (Fairman) Ledger

My maternal grandmother Elma Etta Fairman

Last year I was looking through some old pictures. I am very lucky in that most of the pictures my grandmother Elma left are in an album and many of the names are written below the pictures so I have at least a clue as to who is in the picture.  Only problem is that grandma died in 1933 and any pictures she didn’t place in the album have no identification on them.  My mom saved lots of pictures but wasn’t the best at writing on the older ones and sometimes I come across names that I don’t recognize.  Since mom did not stay in contact with her mother’s side of the family much – in fact hardly at all because I never met ANY of them while I was growing up – I am pretty clueless as to what happened to them all.

 

 

 

 

dennisSo I come across this adorable picture of a little boy on a horse.  His last name is Fairman so I know he is somehow related but how?  My curiosity got me all stirred up and thanks to Ancestry.com and Facebook and some detective work on my part, I discovered the long lost children of my mom’s Uncle Fred!

 

 

 

Fred Fairman

Fred Fairman

This is a whole branch of the family I always wondered about.  Mom had only told me that she had an Uncle Fred -she didn’t know what happened to him but she knew that he had a lot of children – that’s it….I asked her once, don’t you wonder where they are…I don’t think she answered me.. mom was funny about family, she seemed to not want to think about her childhood or stay in touch with either side, but that is another story for another blog post someday.

 

I was lucky enough to be able to meet with Uncle Fred’s surviving children last January – we had a wonderful lunch and I felt so loved and accepted….They are such sweet people and I look forward to meeting up with them again next time I am down in Southern CA.

My new found Fairman Family

My new found Fairman Family

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Knut and Maria Lovisa Taken in Sweden in 1896 right before their marriage

So…I did my DNA testing with Ancestry.com and then I did it with 23andme – the ethnicity came out about the same on both. But the weird thing is that I don’t seem to match up as cousins to my dad’s great nieces and nephew. Ancestry has this really cool feature where they go through their DNA database and match you up with people who share some part of DNA with you….they predict the relationship, although it is not an exact science and I sure do not quite understand it all.

I had asked my cousins on dad’s side if they would test and they did and we don’t seem to have any shared DNA, which leads me back to Dad and wondering why I don’t share any DNA with his side of the family. Continue reading

Cousin Bill

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My cousin Bill was actually named Willis Henry Jones but he went by Bill ever since he was born I think.  He was born in 1921, the first grandchild for my grandparents May and Henry and I believe he is the reason they moved to California from Massachusetts.  Somehow my aunt Gertrude (Bill’s mother) ended up in California and married Calvin

Bill Jones 1944

Bill Jones 1944

Willis Jones and then came Bill (and later his brother Albert Richard Jones).  Anyway, I am writing about Bill today because he is one of the main reasons that I got started in my genealogy search.  I always knew Bill existed, but since I was born in 1953 and he died during WWII in 1944 we obviously never met.   Continue reading

Why am I searching for my family when most people want to lose them???

This is my Dad and Mom, Dexter and Louise Halldin in 1941, 12 years before I was born.

Why searching for my family?  Because I am, have been, always will be.  It’s not that I don’t have a family – I do – a mixed bag of nuts for sure and I love them!  I am searching for ancestral family, those who came before us and all that.  I also am looking for family that I never knew existed – I have found cousins – have met some – and learned more about our family as a result.  Continue reading