I am sure you have heard the phrase “a watched pot never boils”. Well, waiting for DNA test results to come back is pretty much like that. I knew it could take up to 6 weeks but…still…I had come so far and now just wanted proof that I wasn’t mucking it all up again. In the mean time I had a chance to go to the L.A. area for a few days and even though the results were not in, I asked my potential 1/2 brothers Scott and Bruce if they would like to meet up. They were so sweet and were excited to meet me, even prior to the proof of the DNA test. We pretty much all thought that the picture of my mom with their dad on the same bowling team sealed the deal.
I drove down to Southern CA and we planned a meet at Scott’s house. While I was driving to our meeting I have never been so nervous in all my life. I was so afraid that I was getting all excited for nothing – what if Scott and Bruce weren’t my 1/2 brothers? I had to remind myself to breathe…to relax…to just be me and let things play out and to stop worrying. As I drove up to the house the first person I saw was Scott, standing in the doorway of his house…and all I could do was smile as I know that this is probably my brother and I couldn’t help but feel the love. Then I see Bruce, the elder of the two and the acceptance was written all over his face too….I felt like I had come home to family. We had the nicest visit….Bruce had brought some old photos from the Perry family and we went through them and laughed and talked. It was such a good visit but also a little bitter sweet as I learned their sister Linda had passed away a couple of years ago and she was very interested in family history and had done lots of research and they were sure we would have hit it off. Linda and I were the closest in age, she being just 2 years younger than me.
Scott’s roommate Donna had a sandwich spread fixed up for us and we ate, and laughed and talked a lot more. I really felt good about this visit and so wished the DNA results would come in while I was in Southern Ca. that weekend, but I knew I would probably have to wait for awhile still. It was funny that Scott kept asking me and texting me..”when will the results be in?”…he wanted to know for sure just like I did – we were like a couple of little kids! I learned so much about the family during our visit and I promised Bruce and Scott that as soon as I knew the results I would be letting them know.
Here we are at our first meeting, June 9, 2016. Scott to the left of the picture and Bruce to the right. Continue reading “DNA doesn’t lie!”